Breathe it in — another new year, crisp and fresh
January is the perfect time to set goals, be they personal, health-focused, financial, spiritual or all of these and more; to prime pathways for moving forward. Easier said than done, right?
Generally, even when it’s yearned for, change is scary. Always there are obstacles. When it comes to achieving or even identifying our goals, many of the most daunting barriers come not from external challenges, but ourselves. By making space for internal, healing work, we can wholly transform the way we envision, approach and reach for true meaning and purpose.
“My area of specialty is behavior change starting from within,” says Tiffany Skidmore, Longmont-based Life Coach, owner of Tiffany Skidmore Coaching & Healing Arts and regular Longmont Times-Call columnist. “No diet or New Year’s resolution sticks if we haven’t made the changes inside our minds and hearts first.”
A former educator, Skidmore helps people escape negative thought spirals that clog their minds, consume their energies and halt progress in their lives and goals. “In my coaching practice, I work with sensitive deep-thinkers who find themselves stuck in self-criticism and negative thought spirals,” Skidmore says. “Clients come to me wanting to get unstuck, build self-love and experience more lightness and freedom in their lives.”
Ready to strive and make powerful strides? Whether your goals for the new year are financial, health-related, professional or a bit of everything, Skidmore can help. Here she shares some of her top tips for achieving your goals and your best, vibrant life.
Get to the big WHY behind your desired change
When we can tap into the core value or need that a change will help us meet, we find a more reliable “fuel source” for change, Skidmore says. “We tend to wait for motivation or inspiration to begin taking the actions to change. The truth is motivation is super finite, unpredictable and often appears AFTER we’ve gotten into the change process. Connection to a deeper why, value or need gives us the reason to tolerate the discomfort and effort that change requires.”
Break big goals into doable steps “The brain is wired to keep us in the familiar, even when it doesn’t serve us anymore,” says Skidmore, explaining that starting small helps our brains and nervous systems get onboard, rather than activating resistance and procrastination when trying to tackle the bigger goal.
Treat yourself like a friend along the way
“Through coaching with Tiffany, the most obvious shift I noticed was how I talk to myself,” says client Elizabeth Sames. “I have so much more awareness of my inner bully, and I can catch her and redirect her in ways that never occurred to me before.”
“Humans in Western society tend to be highly self-critical,” says Skidmore, “yet research shows that change is achieved at a greater rate when we incorporate self-compassion rather than self-criticism.”
Celebrate and acknowledge your wins, your efforts and your persistence
Again, our brains will tend to dwell in the negative, so we can help ourselves on our change journeys by redirecting our attention to the positives and the qualities we are embodying while changing. Balancing our brains in this way helps us have more access to sustained motivation and the capacity to keep going.
“Through my coaching sessions with Tiffany, my whole view of life shifted,” says client Misty Skidmore (no relation). “Tiffany’s work with me helped to affect my entire being – body, soul, mind and spirituality.”
“Most of us accomplish more when we have accountability and connection,” says Skidmore. “This can come from friends, family members, a coach or therapist or
Ready to learn more and grow? Read Tiffany Skidmore’s column every Saturday in the Longmont Times-Call! Go to tiffskidmore.com for more information on Skidmore’s private life coaching, group coaching, and energy healing sessions.
By Wendy McMillan, Longmont Magazine